Their choice......

There are times when you want to fix something that you see is wrong.  These times we jump right in to places we have not been invited.  We might be parents, coaches, teachers, employers, pastors, mentors, family or worse yet just friends.  We become aware of a situation that needs our attention but we cannot make the proper decisions without being involved. So, we involve ourselves without the said permission of the problomee. 

When should we get involved?  Well as parents until a certain age we might think that we make those choices for them.  As a coach we guide, give direction and hopefully it was received.  This is similar to most other relationships. It should only be given when it is asked for.   We like to jump right in and start cleaning up a mess that we have no business trying to even touch, let alone clean up.  What is that silly definition again?  Oh yeah, knowledge from my mistakes, wisdom from others mistakes.  Sometimes people have to be stupid on their own to learn these life lessons.  You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink.  By the way, why is the horse a male gender? Is there something trying to be inferred? Another story for another time.

Like the horse, we can only show the route to freedom, they must choose if they want to be free.  Reflect on your own life first.  Remember, how can you lead this horse to water if you're blind yourself.  Fix your own problems so you might be able to give an experienced answer for others.  Remember it is always their choice.  All the answers in the world will not fix a problem that they need to take action on. Give freely as requested and be available when they fall so you can help pick them back up.