People pleaser

Are your choices dictatated by someone else? There is a book by Dr Henry Cloud titled Boundries. We all have at one point or another made decisions based on other peoples feelings. We don't want to purposely hurt feelings so we follow along with what they would want us to do. If it is in your job, your church, your relationships or anywhere your are sacrificing what your strengths are to please someone else you need to find your focus. It is good to please others sometimes but should not be a life style. If a relationship is built on one person trying to please the other, the relationship is built on give, give, give. There should be some giving and some receiving. It is like a bank account, if you always withdraw, you will be overdrawn sooner rather than later. You cannot please everyone all the time. When you find yourself trying to complete other's tasks that is when you need to create healthy boundaries. A boundaries is not an always "no." It is a healthy way of prioritizing where YOU WANT to say yes and help others while being able to control your time management. Boundaries is the ability of saying yes where you want and no where you don't want. When you have created healthy boundaries then others will recognize where where your line is. When you purchase a property do you just kind of know where the property lines are or do you have it surveyed to distinguish exactly where it is? Imagine creating your boundaries where everyone around you know what that line is and where it is. You will find that you are more excited about helping people, have more energy, more focused attention and more.......(you fill I the blank). It's not bad to be a people pleaser as long as you are within your created boundaries that is healthy for all around you. If others are dependent on you doing their work, how is that healthy for them or you? Be a people pleaser that is healthy!